Re: Is divorce in all cases wrong?
Posted: April 29th, 2023, 2:33 pm
wow whatever happened to this thread? It reads like it had a psychotic episode the last few pages here.
My answer to the original question " is divorce in all cases wrong " would be a resounding "no". I am even glad for the real mercy of no fault divorce. Sometimes a divorce just has to happen, and some marraiges just shouldn't have happened in the first place.
But on the other hand, I actually think only 2% of all divorce cases fall into the above categories. In todays' divorce court, at least one spouse, if not both, want the marraige but can't see a way to fix it. Common scenarios are infidelity, porn use , physical abuse on both sides with tons of resentment and anger focused on each other with blaming, criticizing and fault finding. One or both spouses can be emotionally immature, financially irresponsible, have bad relationship habits, or are otherwise just plain stupid. There can be strong clashes on how to raise the children, etc. Or, last but not least, a husband suddenly declares he's gay.
These are tough situations, but none of the above need ring a death knell in a marraige. There are solutions, gospel based solutions, that can resolve the pain into joy and bring a couple back together again, solutions that don't blame the other spouse or try to change him/her. ( The only exception I would make is when a wife has another man ( or woman ) and has moved out. I wish it wasn't the case, but it would be near impossible for the husband to win her back no matter what. Kudos to any guy who says he did it, but he would be extremely rare.)
People get married because they think it will make them happier. So do something that makes your spouse happy today!
My answer to the original question " is divorce in all cases wrong " would be a resounding "no". I am even glad for the real mercy of no fault divorce. Sometimes a divorce just has to happen, and some marraiges just shouldn't have happened in the first place.
But on the other hand, I actually think only 2% of all divorce cases fall into the above categories. In todays' divorce court, at least one spouse, if not both, want the marraige but can't see a way to fix it. Common scenarios are infidelity, porn use , physical abuse on both sides with tons of resentment and anger focused on each other with blaming, criticizing and fault finding. One or both spouses can be emotionally immature, financially irresponsible, have bad relationship habits, or are otherwise just plain stupid. There can be strong clashes on how to raise the children, etc. Or, last but not least, a husband suddenly declares he's gay.
These are tough situations, but none of the above need ring a death knell in a marraige. There are solutions, gospel based solutions, that can resolve the pain into joy and bring a couple back together again, solutions that don't blame the other spouse or try to change him/her. ( The only exception I would make is when a wife has another man ( or woman ) and has moved out. I wish it wasn't the case, but it would be near impossible for the husband to win her back no matter what. Kudos to any guy who says he did it, but he would be extremely rare.)
People get married because they think it will make them happier. So do something that makes your spouse happy today!