Intimate questions. Intimate answers. A guy can usually tell if a woman doesn't enjoy sex. It appears more like a chore or duty rather than an exciting time. She also doesn't ask much if he doesn't.Sarah wrote: ↑September 21st, 2022, 12:10 pmHereWeGo wrote: ↑September 21st, 2022, 9:14 am Mangus, you bring up good things with this turn into the sex part of the discussion. I agree that it is important to know how each person is with sex before marriage. I also was young and just got married without knowing this. I thought women would like sex since they liked being close, kissing, holding hands, etc. in High School. I quickly found out cuddling is not sex. My marriage was hard because I was expected to be the provider and seldom got the bonding benefits of sex. Fortunately, she decided to end the marriage. I picked a new wife who liked sex and things were MUCH better.
The only problem could be that if every prospective couple did this due diligence, many of the women who didn't like sex would be rejected by a guy who would then look for a woman who would be more sexually compatible to him. We need to face facts--almost all men want sex and plenty of it. Many women are similar but not nearly as many as men.
I'm guessing that your second wife had a previous marriage before you? Why do you think she enjoys sex more than your first wife? Is she having orgasms regularly? Is she content with being close to you? Some women pretend to enjoy sex in order to cope with and accept what reality is. My mom told me before I got married that "sex was for the husband," and that her body just didn't orgasm like she had heard about. She told me she tried to act passionate like the women she saw on television. Faking it doesn't always lead to making it, if you know what I mean.
This was my second wife's second marriage also. She had a good sexual relationship with her first husband also (according to her). His problem was he liked to have sex with other people as well as his wife. My 2nd wife asks for sex as much and probably more than I do where my first would say no often. I make it a policy to have my wife orgasm first. Few failures there and it makes things better overall.