Caught my wife watching pornography

[djinwa]

I walked in on my wife watching pornography.

It was a movie in which a woman was in love with a man, and he took his shirt off on the beach, with his six-pack abs. She immediately dropped her bags, and was sexually aroused.

Next scene was them having sex together, without genitalia or breasts exposed (acceptable?).

She ended up marrying him, but eventually became disillusioned and fantasized about a former flame of hers, who she ran into. She then tried going back to that guy, but by then he was married. I didn't see how it ended, but I assume they somehow both divorced and got together, and were finally happy.

I immediately felt inadequate, and unloved. Does my wife also feel dissatisfied with me and want to go elsewhere? I see so many women who "settled" for their husband, then divorced for a supposedly better guy who will treat them better, or have more money, or is more romantic or better looking, etc.

What should I do about my wife's addiction?

Should I report her to the bishop for fantasizing about other men?

What disciplinary action should the church take against her?

What kind of counseling should she receive for her addiction?

Should I tell my family and her family and ward members about her problem?

Should she confess publicly in front of the ward?

What should I tell our children about the shameful, disgusting addiction of their mother?

How can I undo all the damage to the children caused by their mother's porn habit?

Is there any hope for our marriage? Should I consider divorce before she divorces me to pursue her fantasies?

How can we regain trust now that it is broken and she has cheated?

[Chip]

You shouldn't leave your computer on like that.

[djinwa]

You shouldn't leave your computer on like that.

So this is funny?

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I walked in on my wife watching pornography.

It was a movie in which a woman was in love with a man, and he took his shirt off on the beach, with his six-pack abs. She immediately dropped her bags, and was sexually aroused.

Next scene was them having sex together, without genitalia or breasts exposed (acceptable?).

She ended up marrying him, but eventually became disillusioned and fantasized about a former flame of hers, who she ran into. She then tried going back to that guy, but by then he was married. I didn't see how it ended, but I assume they somehow both divorced and got together, and were finally happy.

I immediately felt inadequate, and unloved. Does my wife also feel dissatisfied with me and want to go elsewhere? I see so many women who "settled" for their husband, then divorced for a supposedly better guy who will treat them better, or have more money, or is more romantic or better looking, etc.

What should I do about my wife's addiction?

Should I report her to the bishop for fantasizing about other men?

What disciplinary action should the church take against her?

What kind of counseling should she receive for her addiction?

Should I tell my family and her family and ward members about her problem?

Should she confess publicly in front of the ward?

What should I tell our children about the shameful, disgusting addiction of their mother?

How can I undo all the damage to the children caused by their mother's porn habit?

Is there any hope for our marriage? Should I consider divorce before she divorces me to pursue her fantasies?

How can we regain trust now that it is broken and she has cheated?

Why would you even think about sharing something like this with your children and especially your Ward? This kind of thing is none of their friggen business.

[Chip]

You shouldn't leave your computer on like that.

So this is funny?

Yes. I believe you're feigning shock in order to demonstrate how overreactive some women get on this issue when it's the man getting "caught" in some mild circumstance.

[[email protected]]

You shouldn't leave your computer on like that.

So this is funny?

Yes. I believe you're feigning shock in order to demonstrate how overreactive some women get on this issue when it's the man getting "caught" in some mild circumstance.

You know what Chip? You're probably right, on second thought I'm leaning toward this being a troll post.

[Durzan]

Mod Hat

*Scratches head in confusion*

Not sure if this is a troll post or if the OP is subtly trying to make a point?

[Chip]

He's full of mischief and subtlety tonight.

[Bronco73idi]

I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, definitely going for the point.

[JohnnyL]

My guess is, trying to make a point, likely vis-a-vis the "I caught my dad..." thread.

Is what's good for the gander, good for the goose? or such.

[Yahtzee]

I walked in on my wife watching pornography.

It was a movie in which a woman was in love with a man, and he took his shirt off on the beach, with his six-pack abs. She immediately dropped her bags, and was sexually aroused.

Next scene was them having sex together, without genitalia or breasts exposed (acceptable?).

Anyone taking this thread as anything more than a parody or illustration needs to key in on the description. One persons porn is anothers romcom.

[hedgehog]

You shouldn't leave your computer on like that.

So this is funny?

Yes. I believe you're feigning shock in order to demonstrate how overreactive some women get on this issue when it's the man getting "caught" in some mild circumstance.

Think he brought up pretty valid criticisms of the way SOME women of the church have drama queened out and publicly humiliated their husband's. My wife, for her other faults, isn't like this but I've known ones who are. My mother and some of my sisters for example.

But then I'm a hopeless heathen.

Hey if they made gossip a temple recommend question this would flip and there would be more men in heaven then women. The game is rigged against men. Accept that reality.

[Elizabeth]

Life is too short and there are too many worthwhile matters to attend to for anyone to be wasting their time on such garbage.

All should strive to keep their thoughts and actions pure instead.

[Lexew1899]

I would first get her parents involved, and let them know she has a pornography problem. Going to the Bishop certainly wouldn't be enough, I'd go straight to the stake president and request church court be held. I'd then inform the children their mother is an addict. Let the releif/EQ presidents know you are going through a rough time, and need a friend to walk you through this painful and trying time. And I would recommend you drop subtle hints about this in fast and testimony meeting.

[Chip]

I would first get her parents involved, and let them know she has a pornography problem. Going to the Bishop certainly wouldn't be enough, I'd go straight to the stake president and request church court be held. I'd then inform the children their mother is an addict. Let the releif EQ president know you after going through a rough time, and need a friend to walk you through this pain and trying time. And I would recommend you drop subtle hints about this in fast and testimony meeting.

Absolutely. There's no reason your complaint can't be woven into a testimony. I've seen it done. You may qualify for Relief Society meals to be brought to your home, as well. And, remember, there's always Facebook.

[nightowl]

I walked in on my wife watching pornography.

It was a movie in which a woman was in love with a man, and he took his shirt off on the beach, with his six-pack abs. She immediately dropped her bags, and was sexually aroused.

Next scene was them having sex together, without genitalia or breasts exposed (acceptable?).

She ended up marrying him, but eventually became disillusioned and fantasized about a former flame of hers, who she ran into. She then tried going back to that guy, but by then he was married. I didn't see how it ended, but I assume they somehow both divorced and got together, and were finally happy.

I immediately felt inadequate, and unloved. Does my wife also feel dissatisfied with me and want to go elsewhere? I see so many women who "settled" for their husband, then divorced for a supposedly better guy who will treat them better, or have more money, or is more romantic or better looking, etc.

What should I do about my wife's addiction?

Should I report her to the bishop for fantasizing about other men?

What disciplinary action should the church take against her?

What kind of counseling should she receive for her addiction?

Should I tell my family and her family and ward members about her problem?

Should she confess publicly in front of the ward?

What should I tell our children about the shameful, disgusting addiction of their mother?

How can I undo all the damage to the children caused by their mother's porn habit?

Is there any hope for our marriage? Should I consider divorce before she divorces me to pursue her fantasies?

How can we regain trust now that it is broken and she has cheated?

Needed a good laugh for the new year and my return to the interwebs!

[ajax]

Watch with her. And then make love to her.

[gkearney]

Some people here clearly require a <satire> tag.

[The East Wind]

I would first get her parents involved, and let them know she has a pornography problem. Going to the Bishop certainly wouldn't be enough, I'd go straight to the stake president and request church court be held. I'd then inform the children their mother is an addict. Let the releif/EQ presidents know you after going through a rough time, and need a friend to walk you through this pain and trying time. And I would recommend you drop subtle hints about this in fast and testimony meeting.

Still not enough. He needs to write a general authority so they can reference this horrific story in a talk. Let the whole church know.

[Thinker]

You shouldn't leave your computer on like that.

So this is funny?

Yes. I believe you're feigning shock in order to demonstrate how overreactive some women get on this issue when it's the man getting "caught" in some mild circumstance.

Think he brought up pretty valid criticisms of the way SOME women of the church have drama queened out and publicly humiliated their husband's. My wife, for her other faults, isn't like this but I've known ones who are. My mother and some of my sisters for example.

But then I'm a hopeless heathen.

Hey if they made gossip a temple recommend question this would flip and there would be more men in heaven then women. The game is rigged against men. Accept that reality.

I’ve seen similar. It’s interesting and probably psychologically healthy to consider the subjectivity of worthiness and unworthiness, realizing when it’s man-made.

Also intriguing is how superficially our church seems chauvinist - a man must be in women’s meetings but not visa versa, women don’t get the praises of men regarding priesthood etc. Yet, underneath all that, maybe because emotional reasoning and (notoriously feminine:) agreeableness are major basis of church praise, it may be much more feminist.

[JohnnyL]

I would first get her parents involved, and let them know she has a pornography problem. Going to the Bishop certainly wouldn't be enough, I'd go straight to the stake president and request church court be held. I'd then inform the children their mother is an addict. Let the releif/EQ presidents know you after going through a rough time, and need a friend to walk you through this pain and trying time. And I would recommend you drop subtle hints about this in fast and testimony meeting.

[Rick Grimes]

I would first get her parents involved, and let them know she has a pornography problem. Going to the Bishop certainly wouldn't be enough, I'd go straight to the stake president and request church court be held. I'd then inform the children their mother is an addict. Let the releif/EQ presidents know you after going through a rough time, and need a friend to walk you through this pain and trying time. And I would recommend you drop subtle hints about this in fast and testimony meeting.

Still not enough. He needs to write a general authority so they can reference this horrific story in a talk. Let the whole church know.

I'm dying!!☠

You forgot about writing to the New Era and Ensign to be interviewed as a "survivor" of his wife's hedonistic fetishes. For him to feel so objectified is the stuff of nightmares. The story could inspire other #metoo survivors to step up and speak out. Time magazine is always looking for an interesting person for their covers too.

[Benaishtart]

In all seriousness I’ve known really (outwardly) Molly M*rmons buy trashy trashy magazines (like cosmo or even worse but...you know geared towards women) and have stacks of them in their home. But if they ever saw a guy laying his eye at sports illustrated swimsuit edition or Maxim or something like that they’d be kicked into the dog house and would be called a porn addict. A former Bishop told me that plenty of women are so anti porn because they’re projecting and covering for their porn problems. Pornography is seriously a plague but I can’t stand the double standard.

[Benaishtart]

And the darker secret is (I know this from personal experience) that especially among lds women under the age of 40 the porn they look at us wayyyyyyyyy worse and more vile and daubached and degenerate and hard and disgusting then the porn most young men look at. This is also coming from first hand information testimonials and experience. It’s more true for Gen Z than any other generation unfortunately.

[Elizabeth]

Pornography etc is not a laughing matter. To my knowledge I know of no one who views it, male or female of my acquaintance.

If there are LDS members who do, then they are hypocrites and tares who should be excommunicated.

Also this thread should not have been opened in general discussions. What impression of the Church does this thread give to others?????