Qualities of a future spouse

[Dusty52]

As a responsible father I cannot leave it all to the spirit
What if my daughter goes inactive and she forfeits her right to the companionship of the Holy Ghost, what then?
I think it's a combination of the two, I agree number one priority is the spirit

Do you suppose that if she's not being led by the Spirit, it will matter one whit how magnificent her husband may seem? What affects her will affect him, and vice versa. If that husband isn't helping to foster the companionship of the Spirit, how is he a good fit for her? If he tries and she just won't have it, how poor will she be for him, and how sorry will she be at the last day?

I'd say that as a responsible father, you must leave it all to the Spirit. Your whole goal should be to foster her relationship with the Holy Ghost. That in turn will foster her relationship with a man.

The point you making makes a lot of sense
I admire your steeliness and your determination to stick with your point of view

[Durzan]

Abijah suggested in a previous post that I should help find my daughter someone to marry
I was impressed with this counsel and had never thought about doing that
It made sense to me, and for that reason I decided to start another post
I would like to pose a question!
If you had a daughter who was single and at some point she was going to marry, what qualities or attributes would you want her future partner to possess?
Also what qualities should your daughter possess?
I'll kick it off
For him
1. Needs to be a worthy priesthood holder and to be actively using it
2. Needs to have current temple recommend
3. Needs to have a calling in the church
4. Need to hear his testimony
5. Need to have a career

For her
Needs to have 2, 3, 4, 5

What else?

Alright, I'm going to throw my hat into the ring and actually give some rather unconventional suggestions (for mormons that is).

On the qualities for her future husband: Do NOT drill those five qualities into her as an absolute requirement for her husband (save perhaps number 5). Why? Because there are men out there who appear on the outside to have most or all those boxes of checked, but who are really just rotten on the inside; and likewise, there are men out there who appear to NOT meet any of those requirements, yet who would make far better husbands and companions for your daughter than you would think. To put it bluntly, the number of worthy priesthood holders (much less young men who remain active in the church) who sincerely fit all those criteria are few and far between. If she finds one who meets most or all your points, then she's insanely lucky and likely being guided by the spirit. Points 1 through 4 should be guidelines, but not a hard and fast rule. Instead, I'd recommend looking for the following:

1. Your daughter must have been guided to him by the Holy Spirit, and the Holy Spirit must have confirmed that she should marry him and that they are compatible! This is FAR more important that any of the qualities that you have listed, which can be developed over time, and may vary in different points of his life. In fact, this point is far more important than anything else I suggest in this list.
2. The man must be respectful of your daughter, and more importantly, others in general. A husband who doesn't show even a semblance of respect is far more likely to break the relationship off at best, or stay and become negligent and abusive at worst.
3. The man must have some semblance of humility, or at least be able to develop that quality. A relationship with a prideful husband can work, but it will lead to additional unnecessary heartache.
4. The man must be able to display some level of confidence. This is something that just about everyone is looking for consciously or sub-conciously.
5. The man must be courageous. He must be willing to stand firm and hold to his beliefs, decisions, and opinions. If he thinks something is wrong, he should voice it. He must be willing to defend his honor, the honor of his family, and his wife's honor. If a man is not willing to defend his family, then he is a poor choice of a husband. He also must be willing to tell the truth even if it will hurt him. A good way to tell if he has this trait or not, is to see if is willing to stand up to you (don't pick a fight with him though).
6. The man must be loyal.
7. The man must be willing to admit when he's wrong, must be willing & capable of repentance, and must be capable of growing spiritually.
8. The man must be loving and encouraging to his wife and family.
9. The man must be willing to serve and must also be willing to sacrifice.
10. The man must be capable of learning how to love selflessly and unconditionally. Note that I do not say that he must love your daughter immediately. Marriage doesn't require love in order to function; rather love is something that should develop in a healthy marriage.

For your daughter: She needs to develop the qualities that would allow her to have the Spirit to always be with her. As long as she has the Spirit, then things should work out for her. As other's have said, this is your number one priority as a father. Do ALL in your power to ensure that she develops this one attribute above all others.

[JK4Woods]

Teach her that "Love" lasts for a bit, then comes the nitty gritty... Shared common experiences making their own history, and sharing success together go a long way to sticking to it.

[Lyster]

The point you making makes a lot of sense
I admire your steeliness and your determination to stick with your point of view

Maybe I'm just stubborn. Makes for a good husband!

On another note in general, I might not place the typical love of "career" on a candidate. Careers aren't the same as they used to be. The shift is taking place that is pushing the "getting" a career further and further back. They are becoming more stagnant and less fulfilling. Your average 25 year old will probably be 10 years away from getting a career in the future (if such things still exist), and only motivated by a paycheck. The hours will increase and the pay the same, the benefits dried up, and the depression soaring.

If you can't tell, I have low hopes for American captialism (which I think is a good thing - and no, I'm not a socialist).