Happily Married, LDS, and Gay - Is it Possible?

[A Random Phrase]

This was an article that was shared with me by a friend. I found it incredibly uplifting. In the blog post, the man is "coming out" - but he is not leaving his wife, he is not leaving the church, he is not looking for a man. I thought of the men I have met on internet forums who admit to the temptation, but who are faithful (smallfarm comes to mind). I admire these people a great deal.

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This is at the end of the blog post:

All of these things are true, whether your mind is allowing you to believe them or not.

There are too many voices of dissent. There are too many voices saying that what I’m doing with my life is impossible. There are too many voices saying I don’t exist. Saying that I am a mirage, or a fake, or an impossibility. And Lolly and I have had our ten wonderful years of isolation, where we have enjoyed the goodness of our love and our life together in private. We have had chances to come out before in loud ways—we’ve been featured anonymously in news stories, been invited to be on radio interviews and documentaries, and were even asked to be on a national talk show. But it wasn’t time. We needed to have those years—ten wonderful years to ourselves, to live outside of any scrutiny, and just be ourselves.

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In closing, when talking to some friends about our situation in preparation for this post, one of them said “It’s almost like we’ve encountered a real live Unicorn!” She was joking of course. She was just saying that they were talking to something that not many encounter. A mythical creature. Someone who is gay, Mormon and married. And then as we told new friends about ourselves in preparation for this post, we told them we were initiating them into “Club Unicorn” because they had now seen something mythical with their very own eyes.

I now extend that invitation to every one of you. I am not a myth. I am real.

I cordially welcome you as the newest member of Club Unicorn.

[Carlos]

This is an uplifting blog (I read it last night), and you have to admire his courage to admit his status in an effort to help others cope on both sides of the aisle. I will quibble with his desire to identify himself as GAY. To me he struggles with same sex attraction (ssa) and has chosen to embrace spiritual love over carnal love. The term 'gay' is defined by gay activists who want their decadent lifestyle pushed upon society. They define gay with their protests, parades, and flaunting behavior. To me Bro Weed is NOT gay, far from it. He's a loving father, a husband, a disciple of Christ who suppresses the natural man for the greater good. These things define him...not gay. He is like many of us, only he has a heavier burden than most. I learned from his blog, was pleased with his actions, and disappointed with his chosen identity.

[Original_Intent]

This is an uplifting blog (I read it last night), and you have to admire his courage to admit his status in an effort to help others cope on both sides of the aisle. I will quibble with his desire to identify himself as GAY. To me he struggles with same sex attraction (ssa) and has chosen to embrace spiritual love over carnal love. The term 'gay' is defined by gay activists who want their decadent lifestyle pushed upon society. They define gay with their protests, parades, and flaunting behavior. To me Bro Weed is NOT gay, far from it. He's a loving father, a husband, a disciple of Christ who suppresses the natural man for the greater good. These things define him...not gay. He is like many of us, only he has a heavier burden than most. I learned from his blog, was pleased with his actions, and disappointed with his chosen identity.

Agree on all counts. Pretty much what I intended to post, so +1.

[SpeedRacer]

Is not giving in to whatever your weakness is in this life and being happily married possible? Of course. Don't focus on SSA. Read Pres. U's talk. We all sin or are tempted differently. Focus on your weakness. If you are sinning, even if it is not heinous homosexuality, you are still depriving yourself of all the blessings of the gospel. Stop it, and focus on serving others.

[A Random Phrase]

SpeedRacer, I think this is exactly what this man has done, and that is why he has been successful.

I can see why identifying himself as "gay" does him a disservice. It could be that he doesn't understand it the way post #2 explained it (which post I agree with).

I hope that he is able to give hope to others who are struggling.

The blog comments had over a thousand comments and people were spilling over, into the link he had provided to another post, to make comments on that post. One person was absolutely convinced Bro. Weed was not happy and tried to get him to leave his wife (for her own good and happiness). I found it strange that another person supposed/assumed he knew what was in Bro. Weed's soul. Bro and Sis Weed put up a video post telling everyone thank you for the responses (they were mostly positive and supportive).

[Matthew.B]

This is an uplifting blog (I read it last night), and you have to admire his courage to admit his status in an effort to help others cope on both sides of the aisle. I will quibble with his desire to identify himself as GAY. To me he struggles with same sex attraction (ssa) and has chosen to embrace spiritual love over carnal love. The term 'gay' is defined by gay activists who want their decadent lifestyle pushed upon society. They define gay with their protests, parades, and flaunting behavior. To me Bro Weed is NOT gay, far from it. He's a loving father, a husband, a disciple of Christ who suppresses the natural man for the greater good. These things define him...not gay. He is like many of us, only he has a heavier burden than most. I learned from his blog, was pleased with his actions, and disappointed with his chosen identity.

+1. I think defining himself as "gay" will become an issue that he will have to resolve. Time will tell what's really in his heart, but I was encouraged greatly by the blog post and am prone to believe everything he stated.

Although I would disagree his burden is "heavier than most"- there's not a man alive who doesn't have sexual attraction for people who are not his wife. In Bro. Weed's case, those people are male. Because he has biological daughters and an "active" sex life (according to his blog post) there cannot be no attraction to his wife.

[AussieOi]

get real mate
you aren't gay
you're just convincing yourself you have a feeling that you think is a biological attraction to men
good grief
if you WERE gay, you wouldnt be married or have kids or whatever your life actually is would you
if i say i FEEL african american, am i? i mean I have white skin
if i say i am moslem, but a practicing jew, am i moslem?
gay is behaviour, and his behaviour is hetero
i dont know what i am saying anymore than i think he knows what he is saying