I agree. Something else to consider is that some people may have what a pastor friend calls "divine appointments" they must keep before walking out the door for the last time. Some people know they will leave but aren't clear about the right time so they wait and listen. If God lets you know it's time to go and you stay then you are a coward. You might even be a coward with good reasons. I live on the Wasatch front and Covid definitely made it easier for me to break away. Many thought we just never went back for health reasons but I've spoken to many in my area so they know exactly why we never went back.creator wrote: ↑September 11th, 2024, 2:55 pmI don't think it's appropriate to be calling someone a coward for staying. There are so many different reasons that someone might continue participating in one form or another. As @larsenb would say, that's too black & white to automatically assume someone is a coward for staying. There could be some who stay because they are cowards, but there is so much context you would need to make that judgment. I'd rather not judge someone's intent in that way.
Some families and communities around here will certainly make you feel like an outsider for leaving but overall my experience has been ok. I'm still friendly with my neighbors but they know I've drawn a line in the sand about participating in church things. I'm officially not a member since last December. My parents didn't know we left until 9/9 when my Dad sent me RMN's birthday bash video trying to reactivate us. They were the ones I was most anxious about telling and now they know. They accepted it with love but I imagine some people might write their kids out of the will for this sort of thing. I know several former members who are waiting for their parents to die before leaving or being open about already having left the church. It takes some deep conditioning for people to act like this. It's very sad.