A good analogy is a dance.Sarah wrote: ↑October 1st, 2022, 7:38 pmSo what does proper leadership look like? Give me some husband/wife examples?spiritMan wrote: ↑October 1st, 2022, 7:33 pmSeriously . . .WTF . . .one of several things (or more is possible). He is an extreme micromanager (not good). She is completely out of control and has no mechanism to self-regulate and fulfill responsiblities (not good).endlessismyname wrote: ↑October 1st, 2022, 7:23 pmI think you should spend some more time learning about what it means to preside. I’m sorry if your life has been full of men who have led you to believe that this is what presiding means. I can see why you’d be wary of letting a man preside under those conditions.Sarah wrote: ↑October 1st, 2022, 7:13 pm
Do you think a husband has authority over his wife in directing what she does with dinner, or bed-time, with how she teaches her children, with how she chooses to make rules for them, in how she does certain chores? You would think that if he presides over her he would make sure she was doing everything "right." And she had no authority to make sure was doing things "right."
Proper leadership sets direction, tone and example.
Marriage should look like a traditional dance (think waltz, foxtrot, etc.). The man leads and guides the dance, however he must be 100% attentive to his partner to ensure that he is not doing crazy things that she can't do, that she won't do, that cause her to look foolish, that is too fast, too slow, etc.
The woman needs to be willing to be lead and at the same time be attentive to the lead and be very communicative on likes, dislikes, things that work, things that don't work, suggestions, etc.
It's not "equal"; it's the joining of a man and a woman in different roles and responsibilities to create something more beautiful than either of them could do alone.