'Plain Folk'... I love it, I love your stories about them, to me, they feel like modern day pioneers and these fine 'plain folk' that truly 'live their religion' through their own free will and agency motivate me to want to be better at living what I claim to believe ...and motivate me to want to truly set EVERY aspect of my life up in a way that would honor our Master.tmac wrote: ↑January 8th, 2022, 7:48 am Echo BroJones, welcome White. Because it seems so rare, it's always refreshing to see well-grounded young blood.
And I agree with the sentiment about "plenty of time." My honest opinion is that if we really knew what was around the corner, and when it will hit us, we would all be scurrying around like a bunch of ants preparing for winter. In my own preparations, I would much rather get some stuff, including relationships, in place in advance, than be scrambling around in a panic trying to making something happen from scratch once we're overwhelmed by it. And, I genuinely believe that relationships is one of the most important component of that whole equation. I would want to be mated up to a good, like-minded spouse who was on the same page, from a good, like-minded family, who become an important part of that network (which fortunately, I am).
On that score, I'm going to share an excerpt from a book series I am working on for a Plain Folk (Amish/Mennonite) audience, that includes discussion of this subject matter.
And, now I'm just going to throw something else out there. From what I understand, some younger women, including young, urban women, are waking up -- apparently much more so than most younger men. I have been paying attention to some of the fastest growing prepper sites, consultants, and services in the country, and they all say that whereas in the past their customers/clients were dominated by 50+ year-old men, now their single biggest customer/client demographics are younger women, including a lot of younger urban women, who are starting to wake up and read the writing on the wall, and figuring out that they better start thinking about how best to get buckled-up for what it inevitably around the corner.As you can imagine, when it came time for me to find a mate and get married, one of my highest priorities – and this was a matter of very proactive consideration and planning – was to find and marry a farm girl who would be comfortable, and share my own desire to live on the land, and to stay home, be a mother, and raise our children.
Even 40 years ago, that was a much bigger challenge for me in modern English society than it should be in Plain Folk culture where many girls still grow up on a farm, with very nurturing mothers, and typically want the same for their own children. But, in terms of beginning with the end in mind, long-term business and perpetuation planning begins even before you have any children. It really begins in earnest when you get married.
To help further illustrate this point, I am going to relate the story of Tobias, one of my youngish Amish acquaintances in Colorado. He grew up in the thick of Amish culture in Holmes County, Ohio. Because of his birth order and how things were going, there was no real chance that he was going to end up with the family farm, so he ultimately went to work for a neighbor who had a successful furniture shop. Although it was a good job, and he enjoyed it well enough on a temporary basis, he couldn’t really see himself doing that the rest of his life. But he had no idea what he really wanted to do. In the meantime, he enjoyed life as a young, single Amish man. Tobias had a steady girlfriend. And because he loved to hunt and fish, he saved up his money, and went to Colorado for an elk hunt. “That was a game changer for me,” he said. When he got back home, he promptly asked his girlfriend “how would you feel about moving to Colorado?” Her reaction turned out to be a deal-breaker, so they broke up. But at that point, he had better criteria for finding a new girlfriend and potential life mate. “By then, it was much more calculated on my part,” he said. “I didn’t want to waste any time with girls who weren’t going to be interested in moving to Colorado.” It took a little doing, but he eventually became aware of a girl who already had two sisters living in Colorado. Along with everything else that factors into such equations, that factor alone provided enough potential to ask her out, start dating, and getting to know each other. It didn’t take them long to get married, and seemingly even less time to move to Colorado, where they seem to be very happy. Although they were certainly not in a position to acquire some large, sprawling farm or ranch, right out of the chute, they now have a young family, and are building a nice place on rural acreage that fits the bill for them. He is a partner in a thriving business. They love the mountains and the big, wide open spaces. And they love living in the West.
The important point is that having compatible visions and sharing a fundamental long-term vision is a critical part of a happy, compatible marriage. Over the course of the past year I have met multiple young Amish wives who definitely fit the bill as help mate to their husbands, and they have been an inspiration to me, including Kathy Beiler, the daughter-in-law of Eli Beiler.
I was thrilled to finally have the opportunity to make the acquaintance of Eli Beiler. In addition to being a Western sheep farmer in Colorado, Eli and his sons are also commercial sheep shearers, who work for a western sheep shearing contractor. We had a real good visit. Among other things, Eli showed me the new goat dairy that his oldest son, Ray, and his wife, Kathy, had built, and explained their operation to me. I asked Eli how his son could possibly go shearing sheep in the Spring and run a goat dairy at the same time. Eli said there was a very simple answer to that question: “He’s got a very good wife,” who I had the opportunity to meet, and she confirmed that she quite enjoys the work and challenge of running and holding down the dairy when her husband is off shearing sheep. I asked Kathy what she thought of that, and was a little surprised at her response: “I love it. I love taking care of the dairy when Ray’s gone,” she said. “I do it so much better than he does,” she said with a twinkle in her eye, “because I am not as pressed for time, and I really enjoy doing it, so I wouldn’t have it any other way.” “But what about your young kids,” I asked. “It’s perfect,” she said, “just the way it’s meant to be; I’m training them right.”
It did my heart good to once again meet Amish women with such a willing, can-do attitude. I have been so happy to meet more and more Amish families in the West, and see the extent to which most of their communities are growing and thriving.
I find this interesting, and worthwhile food for thought and hope on this topic.
I've been in SE corner of Kansas working these last few months(now I'm wanting to move here: with land as cheap as it is and the fact that 'Babylon' hasn't crept into the small town wards/culture like it has the bigger city wards and areas) and I regularly see 'Plain folk' (the Anabaptists types) around here. Their meekness and simplicity and humbleness just captivate me. I'm in awe that in today's world of instant gratification and convenience people still choose to live like them(i think deep down I'm just jealous that I'm not in a community of Mo's that set up their lives like the Anabaptists)